Being a part of a high tech fast-paced world, which is fed on regular updates, upgrades, and next-gen technologies every new second, we as a society are grinding in new ways of follow up.
New Ways of Life, New Ways of Understanding, New Combustion of Culture, and New Introduction of Ideas, while checking and challenging abilities to follow up and develop with the diversity of drastic changes in surroundings.
Interestingly, all this has brought intense pressure of keeping up with the world on many of us, one of such challenges is FOMO.
Fear of Missing Out aka FOMO, as known to millennials, now has come out as an alarming manifestation of this fast, ready to go, all demanding, multi achieving world.
It is a form of social anxiety that people are facing a pressing dilemma, and it is drastically influencing the human mind and behaviour, mostly not in a pleasing way.
FOMO is the increased and pervasive anxiety on apprehension of missing out on social events or experiences that others are perceived to be having or say developing feelings of worry of a situation someone else is having by comparing it to daily lives.
There are many speculations over the internet, and one is that the psychologists are blaming social media for it. Yes! Majorly that’s the place where we face read photos and videos of our social groups, right?
Research and Studies show that FOMO leads to extreme dissatisfaction and has a detrimental effect on our mental and physical health, i.e. loneliness, mood swings, reduced self-esteem, extreme social anxiety, feelings of inferiority, with increased levels of negativity and depression—although it is not surprising that the use of antidepressants has risen sharply in recent years.
The question is, are we really missing out that much we fall to believe in due to a constant comparison of what’s happening out there through different kinds of media, both social and mainstream?
No matter what it is, whether it be a friend getting new car or house, or a cousin placed overseas with a professional degree, someone is doing a solo trip through country with backpack, a family member getting married, or a sibling having a baby. Everything is desirable, and most things seem conquerable even though choices feel widespread and scattered.
A LOT is going out there, and everything has its taste. Personally, my job here is to answer while creating a deeper understanding of this fear we seem to face as an individual as well as community in “Now.”
Every fear comes with a desire. Say fear of dying, comes with a desire for living. Fear of losing, attached with a desire of winning. Looking further, every desire comes with a pre-notion of satisfaction; i.e winning has a different dose of satisfaction to different individuals.
The desire comes with the ideal satisfaction derived. Such satisfaction one might have experienced in the past or might have fantasised relating surroundings, situations or from the idea gathered from thoughts or senses. Fear of losing this satisfaction draws out the fear of not being good enough, or say the Fear of Missing Out from the Do of Fellow World.
In this millennials’ era, satisfaction deriving sources have multiplied with horizons of creativity and imagination. We are fed with desires we didn’t know existed before knowing the satisfaction, the use, and the power it contains.
Such as technology, developing media, hundred channels telling me what is happening and what to do and how to do it.
Well, a point of success in life gives a forwarding move and a failure sets in a lesson with fear of not losing the same way ever again. Sometimes we succeed the first time, of some of the idea was a success, but, later, it turned into failure as conditions changed.
However, as humans, we get attached to similar success so much our idea of success that without evaluating present situations, we start the similar behavioural patterns, missing the opportunity of learning something new.
Social media accounts sitting there watching out for what’s “new” and what’s “happening,” so now we know it, and we know it is what it is!
However, how much are we willing to get swamped by it or is it a setup made to flood us without us knowing what is going on?
Does Fear of Missing Out is a means of keeping hope to reach a pedestal in life and continuously keep trying for it or is it creating confusion and chaos in life, or maybe both?
These questions do jumble my mind because I was hoping you could stop a minute and think about these little silly questions for a while to see how much they make sense no matter how nonsensical they may sound!
For finding a balanced way out of this situation, we need to see with this perspective, an approach of harmony and a willingness to understand self-emotions.
Now, it can be a bit tricky, and I want you to pay a little more of your valuable attention here. Let’s see this question with two windows of possibility:
“Instinct” – The idea which keeps the fight for survival, the desire, craving, gut call of fitting the methods in an environment for existing. For example, peer pressure – reaction of achieving/possessing/experiencing environment and formed surroundings.
“Thought” – The feeling that keeps questioning, reassuring and understanding a culture, society and social belief in effort of doing the right thing.
Alternatively, try to understand it this way:
“Instinct” – The desire that you feel when you see your friend’s filtered photo of pancakes and coffee laid on a table for breakfast.
“Thought” – The ability to reflect upon the fact that your breakfast looks the way it looks because your eyes are not equipped with filtering options.
Moreover, gaining an answer to our question is finding harmony between the above two, as any fear is a conflict between the above two. First, when the thought is perceived. Second, when the desire of achieving it is instinctively manifesting in our human consciousness.
Now, with each opening window, comes a different space obtaining different possibilities, some possibilities seem to be good in some ways, some in other ways. By making choices is no funny business!
Humans as we are, our mind needs answers, and it seeks togetherness, it is not abnormal to wish or desire the things of interest. However, it is more important to answer such questions from time to time to see the state and belonging of our understanding of life, and not by FOMO.
This article submitted by Darrshna Shokeen.
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