What happens when a friend stops texting you all of a sudden, do you worry about him or just think that the friend may feel not to talk anymore? It may sound simple and not hurting, but does it usual for a friend, who is suffering from a mental disorder.
Unknowingly or knowingly, everyone has left someone isolating themselves, and at first, it feels normal, and later, it turns regretful and dreadful. There are no easy words to describe a feeling that makes a person go in the dark.
Stop here, question yourself, have you interpreted your friend’s bad texting behavior as egoistic, attention-seeking, and intensely needy? The answer is not away, and it makes us feel sad. Are we turning into a society or humanity that evolved to ignore red flags of letting someone sabotage himself?
I was officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder back in 2012. After that, things started to make sense in my life. I had been isolating myself a lot. And now, I have do have an emotional support system, and I feel the same. The Personal Hell!
I often thought about others like me and how they are coping up with the situations every day. It is hard and more exhausting than writing thousands of words in a single day. For me, it is easy to write on anything of everything, but it is challenging to maintain a relationship with a friend or a lover. It hurts, and it never heals.
5 texts can make a friend come out from the isolation. These words are from a supportive community that takes care of emotional needs, even if staying in different countries.
“I’m here for you. You are enough. I’ll be there if you’re ready.”
“What can I do for you, right?”
“I’ve been thinking about you lately. Let’s hang out in the evening.”
“I know it’ dark, and you’re suffering. I will always be here to help you to find the light again.”
“It’s been weeks now. Just respond with an emoticon if you read this message. Checking in. I understand if you are typing anything.”
It is cliché, but it is effective to know that time passes on. Each intense feeling you feel will calm down eventually. Just hang on to yourself. You might be suffering alone, but you are not alone in the wars to survive.
It has been years that I am writing, and I do not desire to look back. I remember people I saw in pain and they said that people those lived in pain for their lives were the strongest people you would ever know. It’s better to teach your mind the language of words and live yourself with suffering.
Some quotes I read when I isolate myself.
“If you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.”Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
“We don’t heal in isolation, but in community.”S. Kelley Harrell, Gift of the Dreamtime – Reader’s Companion
“Sometimes isolation can be shared.”Ken Grimwood, Replay
On a closing note, I have been turning away from the people I know are here for me. I take time to process emotions and feelings. And it does not mean I would not be back. I thank those who sent me the warm messages today.